After the Disaster: Helping the Child with Autism and Special Needs Cope
Here’s a good starting point: there’s no right or wrong way to process all the complex feelings and emotions that come up when there’s been a fire, flood, storm or other disaster. Catastrophic events are, by definition, traumatic, upsetting events. Everyone needs understanding and support throughout the recovery process.
The child with autism and special needs, who may not be able to understand or articulate their reactions to a disastrous event that occurs in their home, school, or work place, may need additional levels of support. Here are five ways you can help your child cope with the after effects of a disaster:
Maintain as much of your family’s normal routine as possible
Having a regular, predictable routine is a great source of comfort for many children with autism. Disasters are particularly upsetting in part because they cause change to this routine. As much as possible, continue your child’s regular schedule, especially as it occurs outside of the property affected by the disaster. Going to school and other activities as expected can help your child regain some sense of familiarity with what’s going on around them; maintaining routines like regular bed times or a particular meal on a given day can be tougher if the disaster has forced you out of your home, but they do help ease the tension your child is experiencing.
If your child’s comfort objects were adversely affected by the disaster, let your disaster restoration professional know. In some instances, it may be possible to save the comfort item. If that’s not possible, seeking out replacements for the comfort item may be helpful.
Bring your child’s support team in very early in the process.
After you’ve finished calling your insurance company and New Crystal Restoration, the next set of calls needs to be to your child’s support team. This includes their teachers, aides, counselors, and any health care professionals they see regularly, as well as any care providers. Every member of this team needs to know what’s going on; a coordinated response among them to ensure your child gets appropriate support and guidance through their recovery process will help make your life easier. Be sure that when you call New Crystal Restoration that you alert them that you have a child with autism or special needs so that we can work with your team.
Bring in your support team very early in the process.
As the parent of a child with autism or special needs who’s just had a disaster occur in your home or other property, you are under a tremendous amount of stress. You need support throughout this process. Reach out to your friends, supportive family members, and other people who can help you manage the logistics of home restoration, assist with child care, and step in to assist with the myriad of other tasks that go with getting life back to normal. Spouses and romantic partners can be a great source of support, but remember, they’ve also just gone through a traumatic disastrous event as well. Their emotional resources will be drained as well. Seeking assistance from outside sources is a very good idea.
Meltdown Management and Special Accommodations
Emotional outbursts, aggressive acting out, and meltdowns are one of the most challenging aspects of raising a child with autism. The chances are good that your family has already developed your own unique set of coping strategies for dealing with these moments. After a disaster, maintain a heightened awareness as to the likelihood of a meltdown, and as much as possible, avoid those stimuli that are problematic even when everything’s going great.
Even if your child is non-verbal or has great communication difficulties, keep them as fully informed as possible, on an age appropriate level, about what’s going on with the home restoration process. It is not uncommon for a child to become obsessed about the circumstances surrounding the disaster; be prepared for extensive discussions or a compulsive interest about the precipitating event. Coordinate with your child’s therapist if this interest appears to be exacerbating, rather than alleviating, your child’s anxiety levels. In some cases, medication therapy may be useful to get through this transition period, but this is a decision to be made by the parent and physician.
If your child uses a chart or schedule to help with their routine, you may be able to post pictures of the workers, machine and before/after pictures to visually mark what will be happening each day. Social stories may also be used to explain the restoration process and that what was a “bad” event will soon have a “happy” ending.
Prepare your child with autism for noise and extra stimuli. Machines and equipment may be needed causing sensory overload. We recommend using ear phones, scheduling work when the child is with a relative, friend or caregiver, and if possible, New Crystal Restoration can do the work during the hours when the child is at their program.
We LOVE someone with Autism and Special Needs too!
New Crystal Restoration is here to help you through this emotion, stressful and difficult time. We will work as quickly and carefully, mindful of your child’s special need and that this disaster is adversely impacting their routine. New Crystal Restoration may need to apply cleaning agents. Our products are SAFE, non-toxic and botanically based. We understand that your child with autism or special needs thrives on a predictable schedule and consistency, relishes a stress free environment and has challenges with sensory integration and auditory stimuli. We get it; we love someone with autism too!